Care of Newbie Daters

I'm still figuring out what my recent foray into the dating world was all about. It was good, it was difficult, it was a new skill, it was a whole bunch of new skills.

It was nice people who just want to connect with somebody. It was jerks who just wanted to get laid. Mostly it was just imperfect people trying to connect with other imperfect people. A lot of the time being their mostly lovely selves, sometimes being rather clueless .. usually a bit of both ..

I found a lovely post called "Care of Newbie Daters" that is full of wisdom and compassion. Having both been a newbie dater myself, and encountered a few newbie daters too, there are a lot of good things there.

By the way, I'm sitting by the side of the dating pool for a while. No more online dating, no more asking men out. I might go if someone asked me but I'm not going to make it a major hobby.

If I take the same kind of energy I invested into it and focussed on ME for a while, I will be Queen of the Empire by this time next year I(because I'm Queen Victoria and I need an Empire). And I'll much more grounded and centred -- when I understand my own heart a little better, I will be much better able to open my heart to someone else's.

Update -- I am doing really well, I am finally in the happiness zone. It took a while .. but I'm there. The last three months have been revealing and full of wonderful growth ...